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My youthful age and my sexual life.
CHAPTER 1
"Why should I save sex until
marriage?"
Here's a few good reasons for
Christians to wait until they're
married before having sex:
Two-thirds of teens who have
had sex wish they had waited.
Those who save sex for
marriage are far more likely to
experience lasting sexual
satisfaction with their spouses.
Sexually transmitted diseases
(STDs) are at epidemic levels
in this country. Most STDs
occur in teens and young
adults.
Sexually active teens are more
likely to be depressed.
Sex typically speeds up the
breakup of a relationship.
Having sex can impact your
reputation.
You are special and worth
waiting for!
God designed sex in marriage
to be between two people
committed to each other for
life (Gen 2:24).
CHAPTER 2
Is everybody really having
sex?
Despite appearances to the
contrary most teens are not
having sex. Recent studies in the
US show that over 50 percent of
all high schoolers are virgins.
Repeated surveys show that teens
think more of their peers are
sexually active than they actually
are. Sexual activity, especially with
guys, tends to be exaggerated.
Studies also show that the
majority of teens who have had
sex wish they had waited longer.
CHAPTER 3
What's wrong with viewing
pornography?
Pornography devalues women,
treating them as objects of desire
rather than people, made in God's
image, to be loved and cherished.
Playboy founder Hugh Hefner
admitted himself in a recent
interview that he believes "women
are sex objects" (2). Pornography
also devalues sex and can be very
seductive and habit-forming, with
increasing needs for more
sensational material. Exposure to
pornography also leads to
unrealistic expectations later in
life. Viewing pornography
detaches you from the “real world”
and real relationships with people.
Young men who routinely view
pornography have to eventually
get more and more increasingly
hard-core pornography to get
sexually stimulated.
CHAPTER 4
What is a virgin?
According to the Medical Institute
for Sexual Health, “A virgin is
anyone who has never had sexual
intercourse (oral, vaginal, or anal)”.
Many teens falsely assume that
they are still virgins if they only
have oral sex, but this is simply
not true. Oral sex is sex, vaginal
sex is sex, and anal sex is sex.
Any time your sexual organs are
sexually stimulated by the touch
of another person, you’re involved
in a form of sexual activity.
CHAPTER 5
Is oral sex a safe
alternative?
While you cannot get pregnant
through oral sex, it is still clearly a
sexual act, and most teens who
engage in oral sex will proceed to
vaginal sex. One problem with oral
sex is that the intimacy of sex is
removed. Many girls often feel
used after performing the act.
Furthermore, virtually all STDs can
be transmitted through oral sex.
And some STDs, including genital
Herpes, Syphilis, and Chlamydia
are easily spread through oral sex
as well.
CHAPTER 6
How far is too far?
As you probably know, the Bible
does not give a clear limit as to
how far a physical relationship
may progress before marriage.
Believe it or not, this is actually a
good thing! Rather than micro-
managing our lives, God gives us
principles that we are to apply to
our various relationships.
Consider Philippians 4:8:
Finally, brethren, whatever is
true, whatever is honorable,
whatever is right, whatever is
pure, whatever is lovely,
whatever is of good repute, if
there is any excellence and if
anything worthy of praise, dwell
on these things.
I often ask my students to
consider at what stage of physical
progression it becomes
impossible to dwell on things that
are “pure, right, and honorable” as
this passage teaches. Most teens I
know agree that holding hands
and a good-night peck pass the
test. But, in their moments of
honesty, most admit that deep
prolonged kissing (and everything
that comes after that) is difficult to
do without thinking about things
that are not pure, right, and
honorable. I agree. CHAPTER 7
What steps can I take to
save sex for marriage?
The first step in saving sex for
marriage is making a personal
commitment to yourself, your
parents, and to God to wait until
marriage. Choose friends who
share your values. You can resist
peer pressure more easily when
you have friends to stand with
you. Also, avoid being caught in a
compromising situation (such as
home alone without adult
supervision, in a parked car,
etc…). Remember that sex is
progressive. Kissing can lead to
touching, touching can lead to
fondling, and fondling can lead to
sex. Consider group dating. Not
only can group dates often be
more fun, but the temptations that
happen on individual dates are
typically removed. If you date
individually, plan your dates and
don’t push past your curfew. And
never forget, saving sex for
marriage is the greatest gift you
can give yourself and your future
spouse.
CHAPTER 8
What if I've already had sex?
If you’ve already had sex and
regret that decision, the first step
is to stop having sex and begin
with a renewed commitment to
purity. Your past does not have to
determine your future. Purity can
begin today. Second, ask yourself
some tough questions: Why did I
start having sex? Was I pressured
into it? Was I looking for love and
thought sex would fill that void?
Was I merely curious?
Third, experience God’s total
forgiveness. 1 John 1:9 says:
If we confess our sins, He is
faithful and righteous to forgive
us our sins and to cleanse us
from all unrighteousness.
God does not offer partial
forgiveness, or conditional
forgiveness, but total forgiveness.
God loves you and desires that
you experience the most fulfilling
sex, love, and marriage
relationship possible. To
experience God’s best you must
move forward today - regardless
of your past - by making a
commitment to save sex until
marriage. I promise you, it is well
worth the wait!
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Ten Words of Counsel for Single People
I have ten words of counsel for persons who are not married but who have to deal with sexual desires. Some of these have a masculine orientation because I know the male temptation firsthand but not the female. Some are dos and some are don'ts, but all aim to be positive in that they are intended to help you preserve your freedom from any enslavement but God's.
First, do not seek regular sexual gratification through masturbation, that is, the stimulation of your own self to sexual orgasm or climax. Masturbation does not solve sexual pressure for very long, it tends to become habitual, it produces guilt, and it contradicts the God-given design of sexuality. Our bodies and desires were designed for the sexual union of persons, and masturbation contradicts that design. But perhaps worst of all, masturbation is inevitably accompanied and enabled by sexual fantasies in the mind which we would not allow ourselves in reality and so we become like the Pharisees: well scrubbed on the outside, but inside full of perversions.
Second, do not seek sexual satisfaction through touching or being touched by another person, even if you stop short of sexual intercourse. Everyone knows that intimate touching is the prelude and preparation for sexual intercourse, and therefore it belongs where that event belongs, namely, in marriage. Where the permanent commitment that characterizes marriage is missing, caressing becomes depersonalized manipulation; it turns the other's body into a masturbation device to get a private physical thrill. God made us in such a way that if we try to turn that moment of touching into a personal, spiritual expression of love, we are not able to do it without making promises of faithfulness. Implicit in our hearts at that moment is the statement: You may touch me because you have promised never to leave me nor forsake me. You may have me because you
are me. We are so made that we cry out for permanence when giving away our most intimate gifts. They belong in marriage.
Third, avoid unnecessary sexual stimulation. It doesn't take any brains to know that there are enough X-rated movie houses and adult bookstores in this city to keep a person livid 24 hours a day. To visit these crummy places is temptation enough. But the real test is what you do with the more legitimate sources of sexual stimulation. PG movies, Time magazine, the newspaper, television, drugstore magazine racks, rock music lyrics. In our society you cannot escape sexual stimulation, but you can refuse to seek it. And you can avoid it often when you see it coming. This is the great test of whether we are enslaved or free — can we say no to the slave driver in our bodies who wants us to keep on looking and keep on lusting.
Fourth, when the stimulation comes and the desire starts to rise, perform a very conscious act of transfer onto Christ. I wish I had learned this much earlier in my life. While riding down the road, if some billboard or marquee puts a desire into my mind for some illegitimate sexual pleasure, I take that desire and say, "Jesus, you are my Lord and my God, and my greatest desire is to know and love and obey you, so this desire is really for you. I take it from your competitor, I purge it, and I direct it to you. Thank you for freeing me from the bondage of sin." It is remarkable what control we can gain over the direction our desires take, if we really long to please Christ.
Fifth, pray that God would give you, in ever-increasing strength, a longing to know and love and obey him above all else. I read a sermon once entitled, "The Expulsive Power of a New Affection." The point was, there is no better way to overcome a bad desire than to push it out with a new one. It is in prayer that we summon the divine help to produce in us that new desire for God.
Sixth, bathe your mind in God's Word. Jesus prayed, "Sanctify them in the truth. Your word is truth" ( John 17:17 ). There is nothing that renews the mind and enables it to assess things God's way like regular meditation on the Word of God. The person who does not arm himself with the sword of the Spirit ( Ephesians 6:17 ) is going to lose in the battle for his or her body.
Seventh, keep yourself busy, and when it is time for leisure, choose things that are pure, lovely, gracious, excellent, worthy of praise ( Philippians 4:8 ). Idleness in a world like ours is asking for trouble. It is much harder for sexual temptation to gain a foothold when we are busy at some productive task. And if you need some fresh air, walk in a park, not down Hennepin Avenue.
Eighth, don't spend too much time alone. Be with Christian people often. Don't forsake the assembling of yourselves together, but encourage one another, stir each other up to love and good works. Talk of your struggles with trusted friends. Pray for each other and hold each other accountable.
Ninth, strive to think of all people, especially people of the opposite sex, in relation to eternity. It is not easy to fantasize about a person if you think about the eternal torment they may shortly be suffering in hell because of their unbelief. Nor is it easy to disrobe in your imagination a person you know to be an eternal sister or brother in Christ. Paul said in
2 Corinthians 5:16 , "From now on we know no one according to the flesh." We view everybody from God's eternal perspective.
Finally, resolve to seek first the kingdom of God and his righteousness, and he will add to you everything you need sexually. It may be a spouse. It may be the grace and freedom to be single and pure and content. That is up to God. Ours is to seek the kingdom. Or to put it another way, our all-consuming passion must be to glorify God in our bodies by keeping ourselves free from every enslavement but one: the joyful,fulfilling slavery to God

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Why Is Sexual Fulfillment Intended Only for Marriage?
Now, what are his words of guidance to those who are not married? The Greek word from which we get "pornography" is porneia. In the New Testament porneia is translated as "fornication," "unchastity," or "immorality." Generally (though not always) it refers to sexual promiscuity of unmarried people. In
Matthew 15:19 Jesus says, "Out of the heart come evil thoughts, murder, adultery, fornication." Here it stands side by side with adultery, adultery being the specific sin of sexual unfaithfulness in marriage, and fornication being the more general word covering illicit sexual relations for persons who are not married.
The New Testament as well as the Old condemns fornication, or sexual intercourse outside marriage, as sin. In Galatians 5:19 Paul lists it with the works of the flesh. In 2 Corinthians 12:21 he is ready to weep over those who have not repented of this sin. In Ephesians 5:3 he says fornication should never have to be named among Christians. In
Colossians 3:5 fornication is first on Paul's list of things we should put to death in ourselves. And in
Revelation 9:21 it is listed with murder, sorcery, and theft as things a hardened people would not repent of.
In 1 Corinthians 7:2 Paul says,
Because of temptation to immorality (i.e., fornication) each man should have his own wife and each woman her own husband.
Then he goes on in verses 8 and 9:
To the unmarried (men and women) and to the widows I say it is well for them to remain single as I do. But if they cannot exercise self-control, let them marry. For it is better to marry than to be aflame with passion.
The point I want to take from these verses is that, according to Scripture, all sexual intercourse before marriage is immoral. There are many man-centered moralists today who admit that indiscriminate sexual relations are wrong but who argue that, when a couple is engaged or has a deep friendship, then things are different and sexual relations are a legitimate expression of love. But the biblical view cannot be stretched to cover that concession. Paul considers the possibility that a couple may be aflame with passion for each other, and his one and only release from continence is marriage: "If they cannot exercise self-control, they should marry!" God not only created sexual desire, but he also created the perfect sphere for its gratification, marriage. And any attempt to alter his design is not only immoral before God, but destructive of personal relations and individual fulfillment.
This raises the next question: Why did God command that we find gratification for our sexual desires only in marriage? To the best of my knowledge, God does not give us a direct answer to this question in his Word, nor is he obligated to. Sometimes God leaves the wisdom of his commands for us to discover by experience. Those who disobey him discover it through tragedy. Those who obey discover it through patience and joy.
The way I have tried to understand God's wisdom and love in limiting sexual intercourse to marriage is by asking, "What is it that distinguishes marriage from all other heterosexual relations?" The biblical answer to that question is that marriage is distinguished from other chosen relationships by its permanence. Marriage is a commitment made for a lifetime, till death do us part. 1 Corinthians 7:39 ,
A wife is bound to her husband as long as he lives. If the husband dies, she is free to be married to whom she wishes, only in the Lord.
There is no other relationship between a man and a woman requiring that kind of permanent commitment. Therefore, in marriage God has designed a unique and stable and lasting relation for our most intimate expression of love. I believe experience confirms that something good and beautiful is lost from our sexual intimacy in marriage if we gave ourselves away outside that union. God can forgive that sin, but the scar he does not remove. The act will never be the same again. There is an inexpressible deepening of the union of marriage, which God intended, when a husband and wife can lie beside each other in perfect peace and freedom and say, "What I have just given you I have never given to another." I speak to those for whom it is not too late: Do not throw that away.
I find it helpful to use the analogy of Jesus' words in
Matthew 7:6 , "Don't cast your pearls before swine." It is possible to debase the truth by dispensing it willy-nilly. There are some truths that are too precious to be discussed in hostile, worldly settings. That's the way it is with our bodies, too. Nobody dispenses his bodily affections indiscriminately. You don't shake hands with all the people you nod to. You don't hug all the people you shake hands with. You don't kiss all the people you hug. And I would argue that there is a pearl of great value, a pearl of emotional, spiritual, physical intimacy, which can only be placed in one container without being debased and ruined, and that is the strong, permanent velvet-lined case of marriage. The unique, personal sexual fulfillment in the permanence of marriage for those who have kept themselves pure is one of the best explanations for why God limited the gratification of sexual desires to marriage.
The implication of all this for the single person with average sexual desires is not easy. Even if a person gets married in his early twenties, he is confronted with a preceding decade of sexual stress. And for those who remain single, whether by choice or not, the problem of handling sexual desires continues much longer. What help can we give to these people, among whom I include everybody from thirteen years on up who is unmarried and yet feels desires for sexual stimulation and gratification? My main burden for you in this category is that you glorify God in your bodies by keeping yourself free from any enslavement, except to God. In Romans 6:16 Paul said,
Do you not know that if you yield yourselves to anyone as obedient slaves, you are slaves of the one whom you obey, either of sin, which leads to death, or of obedience, which leads to righteousness?
And in 1 Corinthians 6:12 the proud Corinthian libertines said, "All things are lawful for me," but Paul responded, "Yet I will not be enslaved by anything." The meaning of that little interchange is that it is possible to be enslaved in the name of freedom. That is the situation in the world today. In the name of sexual freedom, we are a nation enslaved to our sexual cravings. If you want to know what a nation is hooked on, just observe what the media masters use to get and hold our attention. Sex sells everything. It sells movies, cars, furniture, clothes, booze, news, cigarettes, and sporting gear. Sex sells because we are a nation enslaved to the second, third, and fourth look at the body in the picture. But it shall not be so among you, because you have been set free from sin and are now enslaved to God. Therefore, glorify God by keeping yourself free from the enslaving forces of the world.

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YOUR BODY IS NOT YOUR OWN.
Then I would be able to say to everyone , do you not know that your body is the temple of the Holy Spirit, within you, which you have from God? You are not your own; you were bought with a price. So glorify God in your body ( 1 Corinthians 6:19 , 20 ).
O, what an offensive word to our rebel human nature. The body in which you dwell is not yours to do with simply as you please. God bought your body from the curse of sin by the payment of his own Son, and now your body should serve one all-encompassing purpose: "Glorify, God in your body." As Paul said in Romans 6:12–14 ,
Let not sin therefore reign in your mortal bodies to make you obey their passions. Do not yield yourselves to sin as instruments of wickedness, but yield yourselves to God as people who have been brought from death to life, and your bodily parts to God as instruments of righteousness. For sin will have no dominion over you, for you are not under law but under grace.
God is concerned about what you do with your body. He created them, he bought them, he owns them, he indwells them, and what we do with them demonstrates to the world who our Lord is. If I were to stop here with this general admonition, our consciences would give us some guidance in specific cases, say, of whether we should smoke, or drink, or use drugs, or overeat, or never exercise, or get too little sleep, or engage in sexual relations outside marriage, or masturbate, or wear enticing clothing, or other things that misuse or abuse the body. But what our consciences approve and disapprove of is not always an accurate guide to what God approves of. Therefore, the Bible goes beyond the general admonition, "Glorify God in your body," to the more specific guidance, especially in the matter of sexual desires. So I aim to be more specific, too.
Why Did God Invent Sexual Desire?
The question I want to start with is this: Why did God invent sexual desire? Before I try to answer that question from Scripture, let me define sexual desire. First of all, I am not including homosexual desires. Until I have a chance to preach on homosexuality I'll just say three things about it:
1. If you are here and homosexual, I pray that you will not feel driven away, but will stay and seek help.
2. The practice of homosexuality is sin; it is contrary to God's revealed will.
3. Homosexual desires, like many other kinds of desires, are abnormal, and those who have them should seek through prayer, fellowship, and Christian counseling to be changed. It is not easy, but it is possible.
When I ask the question, why God created sexual desire, I have in mind that normal craving for sexual stimulation and intimacy that begins with early adolescence and continues, for some it seems, indefinitely, but for many mellows out into a less visceral craving but nevertheless real desire for personal and bodily intimacy. I acknowledge that in these years of sexual desire there are many people with very vigorous, and people with very mild, sexual desires. I don't mean to treat anyone along this continuum as better or worse than another. When I speak of those with sexual desires I refer to the vast majority of people who from their early adolescence have to deal one way or another with God-given sexual appetite.
Now, why did he create it? Let me give one brief answer and one expanded answer. The brief answer comes from Genesis 1:27 , 28 , "God created man in his own image, in the image of God he created him; male and female he created them. And God blessed them, and God said to them, 'Be fruitful and multiply and fill the earth and subdue it."' Since sexual desire aims finally at consummation in sexual intercourse, and sexual intercourse is the means that man and woman have of multiplying and filling the earth, therefore, I infer that one of the reasons God created us with sexual desire is to see to it that mankind would indeed fill the earth with people. And for some people procreation of children is the only justification for seeking gratification of sexual desires. But we will see in more detail next week, when we talk about sexual relations in marriage, that the apostle Paul has quite a different view.
A second answer to the question, why God created sexual desire, is found, I believe, in 1 Timothy 4:1–5 ,
Now the Spirit expressly says that in later times some will depart from the faith by giving heed to deceitful spirits and doctrines of demons through the pretensions of liars whose consciences are seared, who forbid marriage and enjoin abstinence from foods, which God created to be received with thanksgiving by those who believe and know the truth. For everything created by God is good, and nothing is to be rejected if it is received with thanksgiving, for then it is consecrated by the word of God and prayer.
In this text Paul is trying to help Timothy know what to say when false teachers arise (and there were some already at Ephesus) who teach that gratification of sexual appetite in marriage and the gratification of appetite for food should be cut back as far as possible. That means, abstain from marriage altogether and avoid unnecessary foods. It is no accident that Paul mentions marriage and eating together here and then treats them as one problem. Because the issue is really bodily pleasure , unnecessary bodily pleasure, whether through sexual stimulation or through eating food. The false teachers said, "Cut bodily pleasure to the minimum that will allow you to live."
Paul's response to this ascetic teaching is very plain in verses 4 and 5:
Everything created by God is good, and nothing is to be rejected if it is received with thanksgiving; for then it is consecrated by the word of God and prayer.
Why did God create sexual desire and sexual intercourse to satisfy it? Why did God create hunger and food to satisfy it? Verse 3 gives a very straightforward answer: "God created (these things)
to be received with thanksgiving by those who believe and know the truth." All the unnecessary, innocent pleasures of life (and there are thousands of them) were created by God to be occasions for thanksgiving to God by those who believe and know the truth. The reason God created sexual desire and the event of sexual intercourse to satisfy it is not merely to fill the earth with people, but also to give another unique and exquisite occasion for the ascent of thanks from two hearts full of gratitude for God's gift of sexuality.
And let us not be deceived by the world. This gift was designed for believers and no one else. Look at verse 3, "God created these things to be received with thanksgiving by those who believe ." By its very design it can only be for believers, because it is designed as an occasion for thanksgiving. But those who do not "know the truth" — the truth, namely, that God is the giver of all good gifts and worthy to be glorified and thanked — those who hold down this truth ( Romans 1:18 , 25 ) and do not trust in God cannot satisfy their sexual desires according to the design of God. All their sexual behavior is sin because it does not spring from faith in God ( Romans 14:23 ) and does not result in thanks to God.

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 SEXUAL PURITY
If the Bible addresses an issue with unrelenting frequency and urgency, and if that issue is one of the strongest natural forces in the world today, then ministers of the Word of God are obligated sooner or later to declare God's will on that issue. The sexual life of the unmarried person (we will talk about married people next week) is of great concern to God. Even those of you who have not entrusted yourselves to Christ for salvation and do not love God, even you are obligated to obey what God has to say about your sexual desires. Though you rebel against his ownership, you are God's. He made you and has an absolute right to tell you what is good for you. He sent Jesus Christ into the world to overcome your rebellion and to make peace by the blood of his cross. And my prayer at the very outset is that you might turn from your rebellion and unbelief and disobedience, and that you might trust Christ for forgiveness and live for the glory of God.

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You can use this as an introduction.
THE YOUTHFUL AGE
THE AGE OF SOWING
When I was in school there was a teacher that taught us commerce , he is a believing Christian. Whenever he had the opportunity to advise us , he starts with a scripture which I fall so much in love with though I was not a believer then but I always get touched whenever he speaks with this scripture which says ;
Do not be deceived for God is not mocked . For whatsoever a man sowth that shall he reap . Galatian 6 : 7
The youthful age is the time of sowing and it is what you sow as a youth that you will reap when you grow old . Many people are suffering in their old age today, not because they were meant to but it occurs as a result of the seed they sowed when they were young in terms of serving God which every man on earth were created to do and many sowed an evil seed in training their children , helping the needy , in communications , integrity and moral life.
Life is a fertile prepared garden where men have received the mandate to sow and to reap in several folds what they had sown . As far as you are living on this planet earth , you are sowing either a good or a bad seed and as in every farm land that is sown for years is left to be fertile again for another to plant so shall every man leave this earth for another to occupy . The law of sowing and reaping had been established by God and no man can counter it .
A seed cannot be reaped the day it was sown it pass through process and there is no possibility of reaping what you did not sow . So, be mindful of your youthful age because , it is the time when you pass through series of temptation, trials , distractions and things that can hinder you from getting to a better destination and a fulfilled life . The end of everything is always important . It does not matter how you started but how you end it . Life is a journey which must one day , come to an end and it is the part you follow that determines your destination .
It is written; truly light is sweet and it is pleasant for the eyes to behold the sun . But if a man lives many years and rejoice in them all yet let him remember the days of darkness for they will be many. That is vanity. Rejoice oh young man in your youth and let your heart cheer you in the days of your youth . Walk in the ways of your heart and in the sight of your eyes but know that for all these God will bring you into judgment. Therefore remove sorrow from your heart and put away evil from your flesh for childhood and youth are vanity . Ecc . 11 : 7 -10
Do not be deceived ; many people have been deceived today, they walk in the ways of their heart and follow after the sight of their eyes without remembering that the youthful age is vanity and that God will bring every deed into judgment. They live in fornication , lies, lust, hatred , anger , love of money more than God without considering that every sin has consequences.
My dear, are you guilty of any of these sins it is dangerous! Surrender to Jesus today and allow the blood he shield on the cross for you to cleanse you from all your iniquities.
Advice to my beloved youths : remember thy creator in the days of your youth before the difficult days comes. Ecc . 12: 1
It is better to travel without anything than to get to your destination and found nothing. Your salvation and moral live is your key to divine success .
Your yesterday is a history , tomorrow is a mystery but today is your refined available currency so, spend it wisely.