20 ways to avoid sexual temptation

How can teens stay true to Jesus in
the middle of a sex-crazed world?
God commands and demands that there
shouldn't even be a hint of sexual
immorality among us as His saved people
(Ephesians 5:3). Of course, we all find this
incredibly easy to do, right? WRONG!
This feels completely impossible most
(maybe all) of the time. If there is one area
of life where it feels like Satan is winning
the battle, it’s in the area of sex. And if
there is one area where our bodies are
screaming out to us to disobey God, it’s in
the area of sex.
So I want to give you my top 20 tips to
help you avoid sexual immorality:
1. Find out what pleases the Lord . This
is a command straight out of
Ephesians 5:10, and is part of what
it means to live a life worthy of our
calling as Christians, and part of
what it means to live a life of love,
just as Christ loved us.
2. Find out what God’s will for your life
is. 1 Thessalonians 4:3-5 says, “It is
God’s will that you should be
sanctified: that you should avoid
sexual immorality; that each of you
should learn to control his own body in
a way that is holy and honorable, not in
passionate lust like the heathen, who
do not know God;” It doesn’t get
much clearer than that!
3. The battle begins in the mind. You
need to know what God says about
sex and trust what God says about
sex. You need to be careful what
you fill your minds with. Imagination
is often the hot-bed where sin is
hatched. Martin Luther once said
about sexual desires, “You can’t stop
birds from flying over your head, but
you can stop them from making nests
in your hair.”
4. Pray (It is a spiritual battle too).
Depend on God, on the power of His
Holy Spirit to strengthen you in this
battle. (Matthew 6:13; 2 Timothy
2:22; James 5:16)
5. Don't put yourself in situations
where you will be easily tempted.
There is little point praying that God
would not lead you into temptation,
then walking straight into a
tempting situation.
6. Remember God is watching. You are
never completely out of sight.
Someone can always see you.
7. Wield the axe . Jesus says in
Matthew 5, if your eye or hand
causes you to sin, gouge them out
and throw them away, because
eternal life is at stake. So if the
internet, magazines, TV, or peer
groups are causing you to sin; wield
the axe. Chop away those things
that tempt you.
8. Talk about sex (accountability) . You
can't fight this alone. You need
God's help and you need help from
God's people too.
9. You are not alone. It can be helpful
to know you are not the only person
who has ever been tempted this way.
“No temptation has seized you except
what is common to man” (1
Corinthians 10:13a)
10. You CAN resist. "God is faithful; He
will not let you be tempted beyond
what you can bear" (1 Corinthians
10:13b).
11. Know that God provides a way out.
"But when you are tempted, he will
also provide a way out so that you can
stand up under it" (1 Corinthians
10:13c).
12. Count yourself dead to sin and alive
to God. Christians are people who
have died to sin (knowing that sin
leads to death), and now live for God
and righteousness, knowing that this
leads to eternal life (Romans
6:11-14).
13. Remember the cross. Jesus died for
our sins, including our sexual sins.
14. Remember Jesus is coming back. We
will all have to give an account for
our lives, even our sex life.
15. Memorise Scripture. When Jesus
was tempted in the desert, he fired
Scripture back at the devil (Matthew
4:1-11). Having God’s Word in the
forefront of your mind can help you
too.
16. Weariness and sadness often leads
to sin. Learn to know yourself. Know
when you are weak and susceptible
to temptation.
17. Struggling is a good sign. Keep
fighting and don't give in.
18. Be careful what you wear. Modesty
is good for you and good for others
too.
19. Forgiveness is available. If you sin
sexually you can still be forgiven,
such is the power of the cross of
Christ. So repent, turn back to God
and live for Him.
20. Read some good books. Fervr
recently released Teen Sex By the
Book . You might find it a helpful
guide for answering some of your
questions about sex.
I hope and pray that these tips will help
you in this fight. Remember, 'not even a
hint of sexual immorality', is God's loving
standard for you (Ephesians 5:3)

TG Piece

To my dearest mum
To the woman that loves me before i was born.
To the woman that held my heart, long before
i had form.
To the woman who was left sleepless from
dusk until dawn with weakness upon
weakness for nine(9) months long.
Telling herself we would all be well soon that
be rest assured for when she finally made it
through to the hospital ward, it was love at
first sight.
A second she saw......me.
I mean she is a type that would give up her
only slippers just to make sure my toes were
warm.
See, she would always favour me despite the
fact she always needed it more, she would
wake up early every morn to stand freezing in
the cold hanging up the clothes we had worn.
Standing at the stove for hours, cooking bowls
of food we would swarm.
And when ever we weren't home, her heart will
be torn.
I mean she can never ever sleep when we were
gone.
She would stay up all night, next to the phone
although i will never call.
So she sent me text messages, please i cant
sleep just let me know you are safe and
secure.
And whenever i was sick, she will always know
what is the cure.
I mean the love she gave to me was the best
medicine that was pure.
A presciption of tea, honey and hand made
lemonade, what more could i ask for?
I give God thanks, all praise to the Lord.
You did it all for me and has never once ask
for a reward, i mean still remember the night
when i was small.
I could never go to sleep until i will call to you
out from the bedroom door.
Touching me and kiss me please and you
would always be there for sure.
See the love you gave to for all this years it is
impossible to ignore.
I love you mum, and am sorry i have never
told you before.
Am sorry for everything mum, I am sorry for it
all.
Am sorry for leaving you as soon as you
taught me how to crawl.
Am sorry for saying ouch!!! Everytime you ask
me to complete a simple chores. It doesn't
make me less of a man to give you a hand
whenever your arms get sore. Am sorry again
and again, for all the promises i fell short.
And am sorry, i cant give you the life you wish
for....the car you dreamt of......the countries
you wish to explore. But most of it all, I am
sorry for all the pains that I caused.
For the night you didn't sleep, and for all
those missed calls.
For all the fight we had and for all the broken
wall.
The dirty room with messy floor, and for all
the clothes that i won't pack back into the
draws. And for all the sacrifices you made
that i never once ever recalled. Like when you
became my mother, let me the threat to move
away from yours. I know how much you love,
and kiss and all the cut you deep like a sword.
But if it was up to me and let you see there is
much as i can afford. So, I promise to make it
up to you and become the son you always
adore....... From now on. So, forgive me,
forgive me for it all, forgive me for everything
i have ever done. Since i was young, stupid
and dumb, just looking am having fun.
Dear mum, I love you, I love you.
I promise to never put anybody else above
you.
Nor let anybody come in between and even if I
get married I promise you will always be my
queen.
Because there is no word in this world that
can let you know how much you really
mean...... To me. Nor is there anywhere in this
world that i could ever repay you.
So, instead I pray everyday for you, that God
has mercy on you, the same way you have
mercy on me. And I have one last request for
you before you Leave.
Please, since God Put paradise beneath your
feet, Please ask God to let paradise be the
Place where we finally meet... Amen....

Sex

One of the greatest headaches of many young
ladies in relationship is the issue of sex. While
they find themselves entangled in love, they
also
would not want to offend God by fornicating.
Meanwhile, most young men of today are
always
demanding sex before marriage as a proof of
love. If a lady denies her boyfriend (fiance)
sex,
he tends to think she either does not love him
or
she is seeing another guy. And this throws the
lady into so much confusion. She genuinely
loves
the guy but wouldn't want to give in to sex. If
she denies him, she may lose him and if she
gives
in too she disobeys God. Sorry to our ladies.
Gentleman, please know that it is absolutely a
lie
from the pit of hell that if your fiancee does
not
give you sex it shows she doesn't love you.
How
can you use sex as a LOVEOMETRE? Have you
never slept with ladies you didn't truly love? If
you haven't then let me tell you that many
people
are having sex with people they never love.
And
the men are themselves the worst culprits.
If sex is a proof of love then we have to
conclude
that prostitutes love all the men they sleep
with.
If sex is a proof of love then we have to go
about
sleeping with our best friends and even family
members to show how deeply we love them.
Even married couples, do not have sex to
prove
their love. They rather have sex because sex is
part of marriage and it is meant for both
procreation and recreation - child birth and
enjoyment. Don't you know that there are
married
couples who are not genuinely in love but they
still have sex as a matter of duty or just for
cover-ups?
Surely, sex plays a major role in love affairs.
But
Eccl 3:1 says, "For everything there is a
season..." It is never the right season to have
sex
in a relationship. This is because sex is a
blood
covenant between husband and wife not
boyfriend
and girlfriend. Gen. 4:1 says, "Adam knew his
wife". It does not say "Adam knew his
girlfriend".
Stop going that far with the lady. If you want
to
know about a woman's love for you sex is
never
the answer. Leave her alone to serve God right
for
your own sake if you truly want to marry her.
Song of Songs 2:7 says, "I charge you, O
daughters of Jerusalem, by the gazelle...that
you
AWAKEN NOT LOVE UNTIL IT IS TIME".
The gazelle is a very swift animal. It runs at
least
96 km per hour. Bible compares romance to
the
gazelle. If you start romance at the wrong
time
you may crush because you will not be able to
stop it from running your life at top speed. So
until you are married, don't AWAKEN LOVE.
Sex
has been the main reason for most broken
hearts
and disappointments.
Sex is called love-making because it involves
the
body, soul and spirit. Do you want your soul
and
spirit to be tied to somebody who is not
married
to you? Can you stand the consequences, Mr.
Young Man? Hear the Bible:
"O my son, O son of my womb, O son of my
vows,
DO NOT SPEND YOUR STRENGTH ON WOMEN,
YOUR VIGOUR ON THOSE WHO DESTROY
KINGS." (Prov. 31:2)
Sex before marriage can destroy you, even
your
Christian life. The funny thing is some
Brothers in Christ even worry the
Sisters in Christ for sex. So God says, "My
son...son of my vow". You are a son of God so
don't waste your energy on women. You
should
rather be teaching her chastity and help her
serve
God well.
Seeking love from sex is like looking for Jesus
in
an empty tomb.(Word) Take it easy. When you
marry
you will be fed up with sex. Your wife will be
chasing you with it and you will be running
away,
saying, "Oh I'm tired, why?". Take time okay,
Wait patiently. It will soon be laid at
your doorstep and you will notice how stupid
it is
to chase sex when you are not married.
If you want a woman to prove her love to you,
allow her some space to be herself. Do not
force
your will on her or control her. Her love, by
nature, will push her to do things that will
signal
to you that you are her top priority. She will
be
ready to marry you, than just have fun with
you.
She will not be interested in you showering
things
on her but rather, she would want both of you
to
set your life and future right. She will support
your dreams and visions and help you build
up
your Christian life. In fact, she will exhibit the
spirit of humility and you will also discover
she is
a precious jewel in a glass jar, reserved for
you
alone.
So from today, even if she herself brings sex,
tell
her..."Do not awaken love until it is time." And
if
you guys love each other, plan about marrying
and submit your plans to God. He will bless it
and
put you two together as one.. Ladies...you
should also
read before sending to him
I wish u read all to the last.....our ladies are
dying in the hands of some unmerciful men.
Sex has turned many ladies into a mystery of
thinking what they feel for a particular guy is
true love.
You meet a guy, he takes you out; He had a
great sex with you, it was like heaven to you.
He makes you feel happy because you enjoyed
him so much
you start assuming both of you are meant to
be together as husband & wife.
You start dreaming of your future with him
while he's just having fun. Your feelings for
him has blindfolded you from seeing things
from the reality point
of view. You find yourself infatuated with him
just because you don't want to feel used &
dumped.
Sometimes you need to sit down & ask
yourself; what do i really love about this guy?
Do I see Christ in him? Is he a guy I can
boldly take to my pastor? Can I introduce him
as my husband to people who
are responsible? You know the guy is not
capable of being a good husband & father; yet
you want to kill yourself because of him. But
sometimes you need
to differentiate between what you just feel and
what you really deserve. (Deep)
Don't start dreaming of your future with a guy
who is just catching his fun. Don't attach a
permanent feeling to a temporal person. Don't
open up your heart to
a guy who doesn't open his bible. Stop
chasing
after a guy who doesn't chase after God.
(Word )
Look, Maybe as a lady your lifestyle is not
pleasing to God, today is your day of
salvation. Don't wait till when you marry &
divorce before you realize you need Jesus.
You don't have to wait till when you become a
single mother before you aspire to
be an evangelist.
Give your life to Jesus now and He will give
you a man who will take care of you. You
cannot receive anything from God until you
first receive His only Son
because Jesus is everything that God has
given for you.
God bless you as you like, comment & share.
From Ambassador David Peter E.