Effect of losing virginity

Losing virginity is an important rite of
passage for every male or female. What age
do most people think about losing virginity?
Age 16 tends to be a quite common age for
someone to go all the way with a significant
other. However, there are many lessons to be
learned from losing virginity at age 16. Here
are just a few things to think about and
consider before you choose to give up your
virginity at this young, tender age.
Lessons of Losing Virginity at Age 16
What will you learn from losing virginity? Age
16 is the typical age at which people begin
thinking about or doing it. But you might be
surprised by what you will learn when you do.
1. This Might Not Last
Most people, especially girls, believe that
they are completely in love at age 16 and
that their relationship will last. Unfortunately,
after they give away their virginity, the
relationship usually ends.
2. It Will Strain Relationships
It might feel good to lose your virginity, but
it usually involves a lot of sneaking around
and lying about what you are doing,
especially to friends and family. That means
that you are straining your other
relationships.
3. Saying "Yes" is Tough
There is much talk about saying "no" to
losing virginity. Age 16 is one of those times
when it's tough to say yes, too. You know
that you probably shouldn't do it just yet, but
you feel pressured. Saying yes at this stage is
probably not the best idea.
4. It's Dangerous
Sexual activity can be dangerous for someone
around this age, especially if they aren't
using protection, or if they or their partner
don't know how to use it properly. And
remember, early sexual activity raises your
risks of cervical cancer.
5. The Emotions Can Be Damaging
When losing your virginity at age 16 or
somewhere close to that age, you are
engaging in something you can't take back,
and that can cause problems down the road
when you are looking forward to getting
married and having a lifelong partner. When
the relationship ends, you are at serious risk
for depression and other emotional or mental
issues.
6. Being Used to Sex Leads to Consequences
A girl who feels as though she has been used
to sex – as many girls losing virginity at age
16 are – will try to ease that hurt by jumping
into a series of relationships. And besides
that, once the relationship ends, she knows
that sex is no longer as important as it
should be, and that can make her look at
losing her virginity as something she sorely
regrets.
7. Bonding Becomes Difficult
Someone who has given away their virginity
and have sex too early might find it tough to
bond with those who love them later, such as
their new husband. They begin to see sex as
something that doesn't matter that much, but
the opposite is the really true thing. They
adopt this position in order to avoid feeling
hurt about the rejection that comes after
losing that first sexual partner.
Average Age of Losing Virginity
When do most people engaging in losing
virginity? Age 16 seems to be the norm, but
is that true in all cultures? It's important to
decide if you are alone in the decision to lose
your virginity at a certain age.
For women, the worldwide average age of
losing virginity is just over 16 years – 16.4,
to be exact. But if you get all the way to
college without a sexual encounter, you are
among 21% of the female population who
have held onto their virginity for a long
while. But by the age of 23, a whopping 95%
have already had sex; that number jumps to
98% by the age of 30.
For men, the average age of first sexual
intercourse in North America is 17. By the
age of 19, about 80% of men have
experienced sex, and over 97% have had sex
by the age of 25. Men also tend to have more
sexual partners than women at any age.
Myths About Losing Your Virginity
Now that you know some facts about losing
virginity, how about clearing up some myths
now? These strange ideas about virginity and
having sex for the first time deserve to be
debunked!
1. Losing Your Virginity Means Penetration
Not necessarily. What about women who are
attracted to women? Just because they have
never had a penis inside them, that doesn't
mean they are still virgins. Losing your
virginity might mean a variety of sexual acts.
It's the feeling that goes along with them
that determines if you have lost your virginity
or not.
2. There Is Always Blood at the First Time
This is absolutely not true. The first time
someone has sex, they might bleed, but they
might not. The hymen, the area of the vagina
that tears during first intercourse, might not
be there at all – so no blood happens.
3. It's Going to Hurt
Not necessarily. What matters is making sure
she is ready to have sex. That means plenty
of foreplay and lots of lubrication. In fact, if
there is any pain, you should stop and try to
get even more aroused before going further.
4. You're Going to Get Off
Again, not necessarily. Women often take
much longer to reach orgasm, and it's rare
that women actually have orgasms during
their first sexual encounters. Even men
sometimes have trouble "getting off" when
they have sex for the first time, because they
are so worried about performance or about
their partner's feelings. So don't have too
high expectations when losing virginity. Age
16 is an age when you're full of imagination,
but do bear in mind that you may not have
orgasm at first sex.
5. You Won't Get Pregnant
Wrong! Anytime a penis is near a vagina,
pregnancy is possible. That means you can
get pregnant even if you haven't actually had
penetration. Scary, isn't it? That's why you
should always use a condom.
6. It's Like the Porn Films
Real sex is nothing like what you see in porn,
and if you think it will be, prepare to be
disappointed. Real sex is going to be messy,
sweaty, confusing and maybe even a little
funny. You will enjoy yourself, but you won't
be a porn queen or king while doing so.
7. You Really Need to Have Sex
No, you don't. Sex is a very personal thing,
shared with a special partner. When you
choose to have sex – or not – is a very
personal decision that should always be
entirely up to you. Don't be pressured by
anyone into having sex, especially into losing
your virginity before you are truly ready.