If you are still single, there are many things that
may attract you to a man or woman for
marital relationship which have nothing to do
with marriage, but you may be willfully
ignorant of that. Here is the list of such
things:
TALENTS
When you see a brother who can play musical
instrument very well or a young lady or man
who has a good voice, and you feel attracted
to the person for marital relationship, now
what does singing or musical instrument has
to do with marriage? It is called the ignorance
of the singles. You may not realize this until
you get into marital relationship or you get
married that you will know that what attracted
you to the person in the first instance has
nothing to do with having a successful
marriage at all. That is one of the reasons
celebrities marriages do not last, those talents
are not really needed in marriage, only on
stage. Then you will remember James 5:13,
it's when people are happily married that they
appreciate their spouses singing melody to
them, but if not, the voices and singing
become ugly.
PHYSICAL ATTRACTION
This is very funny, but to many singles out
there, it is not funny at all, it is rather a costly
ignorance. When you are attracted to a man
because he knows how to dress very well, or to
a lady because she has straight legs, because
the person is tall, slim, light skin or glowing
skin, or because the person has good set of
teeth, long hair, or has a good smile, you are
under the influence of common single’s
ignorance, because none of these things have
anything to do with having a good marriage.
If you go into marital relationship or get
married wrongly to a person because of
physical attraction, when the agony of bad
marriage overwhelms you, you will wish to use
cutlass to cut off the straight legs or whatever
that lured you to the person.
PHYSICAL BEAUTY
In the book of Proverbs 31: 30, the Bible says,
“Charm is deceitful and beauty is passing, but
a woman who fears the LORD, she shall be
praised.” If you are single and you are still
overwhelmed with single exorbitance, this
Bible verse will not make any sense to you,
you will feel like, “No oh, beauty is something
to me o, I want to marry a beautiful woman,
that is my longtime dream.” Or “I want to
marry a handsome man; in fact I can’t marry
less than that.” And you even quote Bible to
back it up, that God gives good things to His
children. You know what? To the single,
beauty is something or everything, but to have
a successful marriage, beauty is nothing.
If you see a beautiful lady or a handsome
young man over there, and you are attracted
to the person for marital relationship, because
of the beauty, you know what? You are under
the influence of single ignorance which will
soon clear from your eyes when you get into
it.
Physical beauty has nothing to do with a
good or happy marriage. If physical beauty
has anything to contribute to happy marriage,
why do celebrities have more divorce rate?
Why do most men with beautiful wives still
cheat on their wives or abuse them physically
or verbally? It is simply because physical
beauty has nothing to do with having a good
marriage, and just as the Bible says in
Proverbs 31:30 that beauty is passing –
meaning the impression that the beauty of
person has on you will shortly pass away in
marriage and you will face the reality.
FINANCIAL & MATERIAL INFLUENCE
If you marry somebody because the person is
financially okay or has a good job or
business, after you get married, you then
realize that God had already destined you to
be prospered on your own without the person,
then you will wish you had married the right
person and prospered together.
When you marry somebody because of their
financial or material influence, you will not
have respect of the person and you will not
have rest of mind. Later you will realize that
you could have made it richer without the
person, that you could have married the poor
but right person and make it together.
When you see a couple in a brand new latest
SUV, wearing same designers, when you see a
couple spending their vacation or summer in
an expensive place outside the country, and
you envy them and wish you have such
marriage? What a fool! sorry for calling you
fool,before you say I have insulted you,but it
hurts na.You don’t know that all those things
have nothing to do with happy home. Money,
materials and others have nothing to do with
a good and godly home. For example, there is
no amount of money your husband may have
that can console you when you realize he is
cheating on you.
When you marry a vision less rich guy that
has a Television and ignore a visionary man
without a Television now, then one day you
will watch the visionary man on your
husband's TV. Also when you marry a wrong
lady without the inbuilt capacity to support
your vision, but because she is beautiful to
behold, soon you will have no major project
than to spend on her beauty with latest
makeups.
ACADEMIC QUALIFICATIONS
Another common ignorance among singles in
choosing partner in marriage is academic
qualification. You want to marry, and you
have this idol of academic qualification in
your heart that the lady you want to marry
must be very educated or the man you want to
marry must not have lesser education than
you.
When you ignore the perfect will of God for
your life because he is not as educated as you
want or because her academic qualification is
too low, and you think, “How will people feel
that after all my academic qualification I will
now marry this person with low academic
qualification.” Will it not sound well for
people to hear that the person you want to
marry graduated from so-so university, or s/
he is a Dr, Lawyer, Engr. Etc.? You know
what? People you are trying to impress by
marrying a wrong educated person will not be
there with you in the marriage when tragedy of
wrong marriage starts to let loose on you.
TRIBE
Do you want to marry a particular tribe person
or you want to marry the perfect will of God
for your life? Will it not be so painful that the
heart-breaking wrong person you marry is
from your tribe? Rather, will you not be so
peaceful that the loving, godly and right
person you marry is from another tribe? Which
one is better for you?
It is funny when I see people saying they must
marry from their tribe or town or village as if
they have not seen the worst husbands or
wives from that their tribe, as if marrying in
their tribes is more important than marrying in
the Lord.
PARENTAL INFLUENCE
When you allow your parents to choose for
you instead of allowing God to choose for you
or when you choose to marry somebody
because his or her parents are good or godly,
and you go into marital relationship with
somebody because it is the wish of your
parents or because the parents of the person
are ministers, popular, or powerful in the
society, such is called ignorance of the single.
When you enter into the wrong marriage, your
parents or the parents of your spouse will not
be there with you.
THE ONLY RIGHT CHOICE
If you don’t want to marry and mar your life,
destiny, ministry and eternity, but if you want
to marry and make it in life, and also make
heaven, then the only person you can marry
and never regret it is the person who is the
will of God for you. God has created a person
for you that fits your life, destiny, God’s
program for you and that is what is called the
will of God in marriage. You may miss the
right school, the right carrier for you or the
right job, but please do not miss the right
person God has created for you because if you
miss it, you may miss everything including
heaven.
HOW TO DISCOVER THE WILL OF GOD IN
MARRIAGE
1, Surrender your life to Jesus. Only in Christ
you have the will of God, until you are
genuinely saved.
2, Surrender your will and ways to God. Let
His will be your will and His way be yours, no
idol.
3, Seek Him for guidance. Lean not on your
own understanding
4, Settle for God’s will, not your permissive
will
5, Stay pure till marriage. No premarital
inordinate affection or sexual immorality.
Here is the word of God – Isaiah 1:19, 20:
“If you are willing and obedient,
You shall eat the good of the land;
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